Identifying Toxic Individual Around You

Do you ever wonder why people act annoyingly to others or giving unbearable negative comments about people? Simple; they actually project their fears and bad thought on others. Trust me; they might look like an angel but act/thinks worst than the devil. They often pray for people's destruction more than wishing people happiness. If they speak 100 sentences, most probably; 5 sentences are accurate facts but the rest are just a pile of rubbish. These are just simple descriptions of “Toxic individual”. Sadly, these destructive individuals live among us. They can be your family members, your friends, your colleagues, your neighbor, your spouse or YOU yourself!


Here are some of the criteria of how to identify these “Toxic people”;
  1. He/She always say negative things about others more than positive matters
  2. He/She always act innocent like an angel in front of you- as if there are no mistakes done by her/him
  3. He/She get satisfied witnessing people misery
  4. He/She only praised people who can benefit them. To those who don’t, he/she will say negative things about them
  5. He/She is a good liar. He/She can really fake their true opinion.
  6. He/She can easily manipulate facts into fictions
  7. Don’t be surprised, he/she can be a religious person (appearance-wise)
  8. He/She do not care about peoples feeling
  9. He/She can hide from the truth and always know how to mitigate the blame on others
  10. He/She can be dangerous, vengeful and evil. If you are not strong enough, do not confront them personally.  They can hurt you physically or emotionally. You do not need another enemy in your life. It is not worth it.

Unfortunately, you might not be able to kill them, run away from them or avoiding them forever. Thus, here are some of the methods that you can use;
  1. Never pay attention to their destructive comments. You can act as a good listener but never add any point on top of it. Well, they are good manipulators. They can use your points against you in the future.
  2. Try to change the topic. It might work for the “Mild” type of Toxic individual.
  3. Just ignore them by excuse yourself from the conversation. Eg: “Sorry dear, I got an important meeting to attend now….TTYL”
  4. Look at them with disbelieving eyes and say nothing
  5. You may show some uninterested moves such as looking at your mobile phone or try to check your wallet, looking at your watch several times per minutes etc Hopefully, they stop talking.
  6. Never ever believe them 100%. If the matter is very important, get second, third, or more opinions/facts from reliable sources.
  7. It is a big mistake to tell other people about what these toxic people have told you. The share button also needs some thought guys… Never share if it's not true/ or even if you are not sure!

What if you find out that YOU ARE THE TOXIC MAN/WOMAN???? Well, do not kill yourself. You are surely not born as a toxic individual. Along the way, you might get infected by the toxic environments that eventually poison your personality. It was never too late to repent. Here are some of the things you can do;
  1. Stop commenting. A wise man used to say that before speaking; do consider if it is True, Kind and Compulsory to speak about. If it is not fulfilling those criteria, just forget about it. If your mouth not cooperating, try to bite your lips whenever it starts to misbehave. It works!
  2. Change your paradigm/overview in any matter. For example; If you saw a man steal bread; do not jump into conclusion immediately. By condemning his act of stealing, punishing him badly; you might not know that he has been in hunger for a few days. This is including giving negative comments on social media. Remember, you are not GOD!
  3. Focus on you! The more you give a shit about others, the less time you spend on your own self. Get busy with work, education, family or start noble moves such as donation, volunteering, etc.
  4. Life is not Zero-Sum-Game theory. You will not lose if others win. Try to be happy with what you have first. Stop being envy to others. If the devil in you is too strong, get help! Go meet Ustad, Pastor, Monk or Psychiatrist. You will notice that being the envy of others is the reason for your unhappy life.
Remind yourself; you are what you want to be! To identify yourself as a Toxic person and willing to change will save yourself from eternal damnation. You will be happier when you manage to cure your soul of the Toxic element. You will create more space for ‘Love’ after getting rid of the ‘Hate’. This might takes time but it worth every effort.

Thanks for reading and please share with your family and friends. This article might be able to help them too! Please leave a comment if you have any suggestions. Good luck guys. Stay Happy!!!

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